What SHOULD you do to get ready for what you want??

"How can I change my life??" it is a question that pesters lots of people. Have you the sensation of not feeling ready for something and you always ask you why?

There are various ways to prepare yourself for what might come your way, whether that’s a tough work project, a crisis, the loss of a loved one, an argument with your partner, or the zombie apocalypse.

One way is to get everything ready for anything that’s likely to come: get all your survival equipment, prepare your skills, plan for your work projects, get your affairs in order, think through your arguments, and so on.

The trouble with this is you don’t know what’s coming. And so you’ll spend your entire life preparing for various things, and not really be ready. And who wants to spend their life just preparing?

Another way of preparing is learning some skills that will have you ready for just about anything that might come.

This is the survival kit of living.

First, the philosophy: you can’t prepare for the details of every single possible thing that might come your way in the future, because the future is uncertain. Instead, realize that the external events are just details … the real thing to prepare yourself for is what happens internally. And it’s pretty much the same thing. So we’re going to learn some internal survival skills that will help us deal with anything the future holds.

Second, a little prep before you prep: I’ve found that while the external details aren’t as important as what you do internally, it’s still good to have your house in order as much as possible. That means have your finances in order — get out of debt or at least have your debts listed with a plan to pay them off as soon as you possibly can, have an emergency fund, spend less than you earn, invest as much as you can. That means to simplify your possessions and your time. Get your health in order — focus on eating more whole foods (especially vegetables) and less processed foods, get active. Once you have these things down, the rest of life is much, much easier.

The Survival Kit

If you learn these things, you’ll be ready for anything — from regular work and personal events to crises of all kinds, to major losses and life changes.

1. Mindfulness. This is the foundation — without practising mindfulness, you won’t be able to do the other skills regularly enough for them to be useful. You can practice mindfulness simply by meditating — focus on your breath for a few minutes every morning, to start with. As you get better at mindfulness, you will get better at noticing what’s going on inside you as external events happen. For example, if someone is yelling at you, you might be mindful of your body at that moment and notice an increased heartbeat, a panicky feeling in your chest, a hot flush in your face, or something like that. Mindfulness of your body’s responses alerts you to what might be going on in your mind.
2. Watch your internal response. As you start to notice your mind’s responses to external events, you can begin to guide your response. For example, if you are given a large project at the last minute, you might notice your breathing getting shallow and your chest tightening, or your jaw clenching … you can then see that you’re extremely anxious about this, maybe resentful that you’re being asked to do this on a short deadline. You can then examine those responses — anxiety, resentfulness — and decide how to act, rather than being controlled by them.
3. See what you’re holding onto. When you have a difficult feeling, like anxiety, anger, resentfulness, fear (including procrastination) … there’s something you’re attached to that’s causing the feeling. It can be difficult to spot this at first, but with practice, you can see it in an instant. If you’re angry or resentful, there’s an ideal situation you would like and are holding onto, that doesn’t match up with reality. For example, maybe someone has said something means to you … you might be angry because (ideally) they shouldn’t treat you that way. It doesn’t matter if you’re right or not — if you want things to be different than reality, you’ll be angry or resentful or frustrated. Noticing what you’re holding onto is an important step.
4. Let it go. It’s impossible not to ever hold onto certain ideals … but if you see that the ideal is causing you pain, you can be compassionate with yourself and let go of the ideal. Sure, people should treat you nicely, but that’s an idea that’s not always going to be true. Letting go of the ideal means embracing the reality that there’s a wide range of behaviours that people will have, and that’s a part of life. Humans don’t always act ideally. We need to accept that, and not force an ideal on reality.
5. Respond appropriately. Acceptance of reality doesn’t mean you do nothing. It means you let go of the ideals causing the painful feelings, and then figure out how to respond without the anger, frustration, anxiety, resentment. Responding to a person or situation in anger or resentment (for example) doesn’t usually result in a skilful response. If you can let go of the ideal and let the painful feelings go, you can respond more skillfully. When my child breaks a dish, for example, I can get angry (“They shouldn’t break dishes!”) and yell (not skilful), or I can let go of that ideal and the resultant anger, and see if the child is OK, and then calmly and compassionately talk about how to avoid that in the future. That’s a more appropriate response. When we respond in anger or frustration, we only compound the problem. Responding calmly and compassionately means we’re going to be able to deal with anything that is in front of us, whether it’s a crisis or a loss or an angry loved one.
6. Stay in the moment. We make situations worse when we replay the past in our heads (“How can they have done that?”) or think of all the things that might go wrong in the future. In the present moment, things are OK. We can meet the present moment with calmness and compassion if we can stay in the present. That means being mindful of when our mind is stuck in the past or speculating about the future, and returning to the present as much as we can.
7. Be grateful & accept the moment for what it is. Reality can suck if we want it to be different … or we can accept reality for what it is, and be grateful for it. This takes practice because it’s hard to be grateful when you feel you’re being treated badly, or you’ve lost a job, or you’ve lost a loved one, or you’re battling illness. But this is the reality you have, not the ideal you wish you had. And it’s a reality that contains beauty if we choose to see it. This skill makes us much more at peace with whatever we need to deal with.

It might seem overly simplistic to say that this survival kit of dealing with life will help us be prepared for any situation. And it is. But there’s nothing wrong with simplifying things if only to help us focus our efforts on what’s most important.

In my experience, these skills matter. They make a huge difference. Practice them, and see how you’re able to deal with life in an entirely new way.

IT IS EASIER THAN YOU THINK

It is a time when you get a decision that your life changes. This is what happened to me in 2007.
Now, I would like to share the introduction of my ebook, to make you discover the story behind it and the principal meaning of it.
Have a good read.

INTRODUCTION

The purpose of this eBook is revolutionizing the life of boys, girls and their parents, by guiding on how to be beneficially productive, and an individual of Value. Einstein used to say: “Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value”.

My name is Emanuele, 28 years old, and pleased with my life. I am a risk taker both in my job as well as in my life, it makes me feel alive. Also, I am an adventurous person in the constant hunt for new activities. Just like anyone in this world, I love doing valuable things for my life, and for other people. My turning point dates back a decade ago when I experienced a life-changing episode of confusion, vulnerability, and pain.

It was the summer of 2007, just after graduating from the fourth class with a score of 8.5 out of 10 (Italian school system). I was a carefree 18-years-old, with a beautiful girlfriend and amazing friends. Down the street from my neighbourhood, the pleasure of the peaceful Italian summer bubbled down the streets where we would ride my pretty scooter along with my friend enjoying the fine scenery and sun warmth.

I then remember deciding on getting a summer job back then for the sake of personal economic independence. Eventually, I managed to land one but even though I was making some upkeep money, my health began deteriorating day by day as my body accumulated bruises, making me weak.

I proceeded to the hospital and signed an appointment with the doctor, carrying the thought that it was a result of effects by the new work environment and that it was a minor case. However, after various checks, the doctor told me: “I’m so sorry, but it could be cancer, we have to wait for the check confirmations”. The words hit me harder than a wrecking ball, in that sudden moment, my heart sunk and words escaped my breath. It was a hard moment, one of those unforgettable days. My grandfather had died a month before for similar cancer, and my thoughts kept telling me I was next. I recall the trip back home from the hospital as if it was yesterday. I reckon negative thoughts paralyzing my body, thoughts of what I would do no more, and how the people close to me, would suffer. I remembered the face of my father. A punch to my stomach.

The DECISION I made at that moment remains engraved in my soul. I decided that I would live a different life, a life full of new positive experiences, and in which I would not care about other opinions from people. I decided to take on the steering wheel of my life my own hands, to discover and implement the right value, and by doing so, become a man capable of helping people.

In Order to Help People, You Need to Have A Great Personal, Economic, And Relational Value, which is the reason I decided to dedicate my life to searching these values.

This eBook has the principal scope to find the right KEY to be productive and not let your life slip through your hands.

Being productive means knowing how to organize our own time in order to get specific results, be they scholastic, professional or physical.

Unfortunately, most of our time is spent fixing a screen, watching useless videos, news with no sense and mostly observing the “beautiful life” of others.

The way to bring back your life in your hands is focusing on the important things that count. Also, by spending our lovely life doing what brings VALUE to our existence.

VALUE…is almost a forgotten word… VALUE should be our word, our research, and our reason for existence. 

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This ebook is the perfect mix of western auto-motivation theories and organization techniques with the philosophy of Continuous improvement Kaizen.
What will you discover?
- How to organise your activities as the best possible.
- How to be motivated, also in moments of greater discouragement.
- How to improve, day by day, step by step, without stopping.
- How to recognise who you really are and who want to be.
- How to achieve your goals with serenity, security and awareness and increase your personal, economic and relational value.
- How to solve problems.
The main goal is to turn you in the best version of yourself.

I do not know for sure if that's what you were looking, but if you think you deserve more from life, this ebook/manual is the one that is right for you. Remember Small Decisions Make Big Life Changes.❤❤❤

The beautiful of changing

“Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future”~ John F. Kennedy

Do you know what? Changes are good.

Habitually, we are so unenthusiastic towards change that we entirely ignore its beauty. We sense that change could be harmful and so we desist from taking risks. We see only the negative and are afraid of embracing the good that might come from it. We entirely are unable to call to mind that transformation is not always bad.

How many times did you happen that suddenly you wanted to start something new but you didn’t move forward, because you were stacked in your comfort zone? Because was so difficult for you!  Yes, the initial stages are definitely challenging but if these challenges are accepted gracefully than the result can be sweetly delicious. New crops don’t grow until the old are removed.

How much changing is important in our life? Also a little change, like changing the hair cutting, brings in our life that wonderful sensation. The beautiful of changing is a NEW ENERGY THAT YOU RECEIVE.

People are always diffident about accepting change. The day we comprehend, we need continuously and consciously to keep changing; we will evolve into a happier being. The problem is that we want to stay with the past and shy away from the new because we constantly associate change with pain and grief. We keep talking about the past, living in the past, thinking in the past and the result is ultimately sorrow.

Our worst problem is that we go back to our own routines, especially when the motivation disappeared. We never ask ourselves: Did we really change our thought route? Did we leave our past and start living in the present to rectify the future? Mostly the answer is “No.” 

In the end, change is beautiful

Change is beautiful and inevitable. It is easier to accept when it is not forced upon us and we choose to initiate it in our lives ourselves. Don’t be afraid to change. You could lose somewhat good in order to gain something better. The beauty of change remains in its reliability. If we let the change “change” us, only then the natural cycle to move smoothly. The more we resist, the more we lose its sweetness.